Friends! I woke up this AM with that still, small voice burning inside, calling, reminding (because let's face it we all need reminders)... the voice was telling me to love. BUT today was different. It wasn't saying love anything else or love everyone else. The reminder was more personal. The voice was saying good morning, you need to love YOURSELF.
Listen, I'm not talking about that I'm the shit, cocky kind of love yourself, love. I'm talking about that deep, love yourself like you love your morning coffee, hot and sweet kinda love. I'm talking about that love you reserve for your beloved pet, your child, your lover, family and closest friends kinda love. You know the one. That compassionate and merciful and gracious kinda love. That heavy love. Love yourself, light your own fire, let others witness you love yourself, then step back and watch your love spread and burn the whole world down. Because after all, you're worth it. 🔥 - With Love 💖
Long post alert.... one of the things I'm working on is not setting myself up for failure. You see, I tend to be a perfectionist with OCD tendencies and this affects every part of my life down to my hair! You may see some curls, I see hair that wasn't curled perfectly or as good as someone else's. Part of me wants to put my hair back in frustration because it doesn't look perfect, but the other side of my brain is trying to learn to embrace the imperfections! It's a struggle and a balance daily for me. Ive always been one to point out and focus on my own faults and I'm trying to learn to give myself a break and realize that I don't have to be perfect! I have a husband and family who loves me regardless! #selflove#selfworth#selfesteem#deepthoughts#reflection
It's that simple.....WORK! This is real life! We live in a world where society thinks we should live in a passive world. Everyone deserves a trophy 🏆. Everyone deserves happiness, everyone deserves confidence, everyone deserves success. Everyone deserves opportunities. -
FALSE.... you deserve Nothing! You need to EARN everything(aka WORK for it). The real world does not care about you complaints, your problems, your issues or the trophy you think you may deserve. You deserve nothing and the real world does not care. -
The amazing thing is.... you can have everything----- confidence, happiness, success, self worth, etc. you only need to do one thing..... earn it! Work for it. The real world will give you nothing but you can earn everything!! -
Nothing like fuzzy socks & a fall sweater.. (and a big butt)🍂
Day one of off season could not have been better
got a good cardio sesh in
had a bomb leg workout
ate some delicious meals
prepped for the school week
cleaned the house
And now I have 3 new flavors of halo top in my lap and a spoon in my hand, ready.
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#metoo But I'm not helping, am I? I mean, look at me, here.
Some can't understand how this isn't an image asking for unsavoury male attention.
Confident in my own skin, confident in my own sexuality, confident in my ability to help others with confidence. Confident that I can always rely on me. Confident that others can rely on me.
I'm not here, being the way I am, for the objectification of men. I couldn't care less. If I took the touching up, the cat calling, the dick pics, the straight up violations and groping from men as a measurement of who I am and my worth, I wouldn't be able to get out of bed in the morning.
This image does not mean that I'm game for harassment. I'm sharing this image because I'm proud of my body and its capabilities, my mind, my sexuality, my love of pole and the community. And the outfit too! #pole#polelove#confidence#badkittypride#selfworth
I wish there was more conversation about #mentalhealth and #travels.
This is my scared but trying look.
This is my “I’m anxious, it’s not going to go away but you have to try anyway” look.
This is my “it’s okay, you’ll probably survive and you want to experience more than this so you have to try to smile and go outside.”
This girl, I’m so proud of her.
Proud of the fact she’s been facing anxiety since 7 years old.
Proud of the fact she’s TRYING to travel now and face her fears.
Proud of her that no matter how much she hates planes, trains and busses, SHE IS GETTING ON them to see the world. 🌟💕
Travelling is intoxicating. It is wonderful. It is BLISS. And it’s incredibly powerful for your mental health. Travelling puts your brain in a state of arousal because everything is new and because of novelty.
You wake up earlier, can sleep less, can feel more alive because everything is so new. But what does that mean for a person who suffers with anxiety?
Basically that those blissful experiences come forth through suffering, that it hurts before it feels happy and that you’ll be deathly afraid before you feel adventurous.
For all my mental health warriors travelling GO AT YOUR OWN PACE.
I was staying at the amazing @boxotel in @montreal and I told them I had anxiety, they knew that feeling safe and comfortable was a priority for me and just the mere fact that I spoke about it made me feel calmer.
When @positively.kate and I decided to have a late start to our day so we could lie in bed and talk about what was going on inside of ourselves, we went at our own pace. We knew this was best for both of us.
All my little anxious beans out there, please try to communicate whenever you can about your state of mind, let people into your minds and hearts and if you are travelling KNOW THAT YOU CAN. 💪
It might take us longer than others, we might do it through tears and shakes but by GOD I will not see the world just because I am scared. I refuse.
So now that I've addressed the life jackets, how about actually getting in the kayak?
Your body is on this earth to be used.
I grew up in Hong Kong and one of the things that I miss most about that island is how much I used to DO. My childhood was filled with being at sea, on paddleboards, on wakeboards, on boats and it has always done wonders for my mental health. When I'm near water I'm my happiest.
Do I see this as exercise? No.
Do I see it as fun? Yes.
Is it exercise? Yes.
Does it matter? No.
Actually more than anything, I see it as freedom.
This to me is the direct opposite to me in a hospital bed.
My weight has never stopped any of these things. But I know for many people it will.
If you are fat, you are supposedly not meant to be in a swimsuit, let alone a bikini. The stereotype is that you don't take part, sit inside, don't join in. Nah, fuck that!
Actually the stereotype is the fat girl breaks the kayak... or falls in. But here's the reality, I weigh more than I did when I was younger. That is a fact. I have a different relationship to gravity. And I'm not as nimble as I used to be. Me and my friend weigh vastly different amounts as you may be able to see I'm sitting a little lower in the ocean than she is. It's ok to talk about this openly. It's ok to say you are fat and talk about it without whispering the F word. When we were finished we sat there trying to figure out a way we could both get out without one of us falling in.
We couldn't so we decided to tip the kayak ourselves and both fall in together - that's what friends are for! 😉 both falling in together is fun, leaving your friend to fall in whilst you save yourself is not!
When you are insecure at your weight, your weight literally becomes the elephant in the room. When you are body positive, it becomes so much easier cause you can simply be like "hey I'm fat, this isn't going to work" whether that's in a kayak or trying to squeeze between tables at a restaurant. I don't say it in a self-deprecating way, I say in a matter of fact way and by doing that, my friends don't rush in to reassure me that I'm not, we just find ways around it. Simple 😂 #ScarredNotScared